A baby girl?

I was thinking of why I want a baby boy and not a baby girl? Am I a sexist? Or, I am also one of those with the typical mind-set of an Indian where a boy is loved and favored more than a girl...?

To understand this, I thought of how I would like to grow up my girl. I always had innumerable plans on how to raise my boy, but never gave much thought on what if it's a girl....

Unfortunately, the two plans had so many differences.

Just because she's a girl, there were starking differences in my plans on what I'll allow, how I'll educate her, what all she can get and what she can't. It looked more like the thought brought out the stricter me from within me, than the loving, caring woman, a mother should be.

She shouldn't be doing this...She's a girl and will be married and expected to behave in such and such manner...she's a girl and may not get that much independence in her new home.... The thoughts were all constraining.

I think the idea of bringing my girl into a world where there are so many disparities and so many boundaries for women, I would be deeply hurt to see a tender soul and a piece of my heart, going through the same difficulties as I have..as I still go through.

It all sounds as if it's ages old world that I'm talking of, but no! This world is where my Mom lived, this is the same world where my Mom-in-law lived, and this is the same world where I'm expected to live. It hasn't changed much.

Only the outer layer changes, but internally everything is the same...the beliefs, the traditions, the mind-set.

The only way that mind set can change is if the younger generation, the upcoming generation says 'no' to following these blind traditions. A firm NO.

But, call it the poor destiny of Indians and India, the nation, you can break any legal law or rule, but breaking a tradition, a family belief is equal to breaking ties with your family.

I doubt many of us would go that far.

Till that time, I can just pray to God to not give me a daughter.

Love..decoded further

Sometimes we keep watering a sapling (or relationship), thinking it'll grow into the tree of love. But, we realize pretty late that the seeds were sown in sand. The sapling never grows. It just dies one day.

This is the same way as we think we're in love with someone and start a relationship. We keep watering the love tree without realizing that it never had a firm base to grow on.

That's where we realize the difference between true love and infatuations.

Love

Love is like a tree. It keeps growing and flowering till the time you keep watering it.

The moment 'you' stop, it dies away.

"It's never the end till it's the end."

We often think of our petty goals as the main aim of life. We feel so strongly about it that we feel that if it ends, it's the end of life. But, nothing is the end of life except the end of life.

Fight

"Those who don't have anything to do, fight."

coz there's no better a reason for a human being to fight with another human being.

A random thought

"Because dreams and reality are different only because of your outlook."

quote again!

"It's not the strongest of the species that survives,
nor the most intelligent...
but the one most responsive to change."

- Anonymous

Thought of the day

"Stop littering, start enjoying rains."
The thought came in my mind when I saw people getting upset on rainy days in Delhi. Traffic jams, blocked roads, water clogged everywhere. We always blame the govt that they don't build proper roads, proper openings for water...the sewage system is so bad. But, actually, I think, we look at only one side of the problem. The other problem is that most of the times the holes are clogged with the garbage people throw carelessly on roads. That garbage gets moved to the outlet, with rain water, hence causing all the trouble.
I think I found another reason why we should not litter and keep the city clean. I hope, someday, Delhiites are also able to enjoy the rains. :)

A thought on Love....

"Love is a state of being where rather than the object of appreciation, the various feelings that one goes through in the process, matter."
That is, it doesn't matter who the person is, or what his/her traits are, what matters in the relation is how 'you' feel. The emotions we feel, the things we get to do (like buying gifts, getting gifts, going for a movie with a person of opp side), loosing sleep, long hours of phone call....and so on....are what you remember or care later. If you replace the person with someone else, it doesn't really matter. Almost everything may remain the same. Atleast the love that today's world knows of, the movies show of, definitely complies to the definition.
Any takers?

Dream - a thought

A Dream is..what bashes you, thwarts you, ridicules you, bogs you down...but still doesn't let go of you!

Quote 12: Orkut's today's fortune.

I feel orkut's today's fortune is more of wisdom quotes than fortunes. But, they are nice ones. Just like this one.

"Everyone is gifted - but some people never open their package"

I hope I don't turn up being such a fool in my life. I do wish that I'm able to realize my true gift and use it in my life.

Quote 11: Perseverance

This one is a personal thought. Don't know how true or valid it is.

"Perseverance is nothing but 'not' accepting NO for an answer! I've decided to be perseverant!" :P